I receive numerous emails. Last year, I replied 3218 emails. Many request small points of information, advice, dharma questions and dharma teaching information. I will include from time to time the summary of an e-mail in my blog.The following is my e-mail response to a person who is experiencing grief over the death of a loved one.
The transition from so-called life to so-called death is not black and white. The person who is outside of us is also inside of us, and this inhibits any final decisive view that we have.
The movement of life constantly emerges and re-emerges like waves on the ocean, an unfolding process of events neither confirming death nor denying it. We can experience anguish of a loss, a sadness that weighs upon our hearts, yet never quite knowing whether we are grieving for the person’s absence from this world, or for our loss, or both, or neither.
We live rather innocently in this world where events, such as passing and loss, neither fail to confirm or deny objectivity or subjectivity. We can only live with love, trust in love, and allow love to permeate our perceptions as much as possible while engaging in the unresolved interpretation of events involving life and death.
Our loved ones would not call upon us to cling and hold onto their memory but support our expressions of shared participation in a world that will always be somewhat unfathomable in its revelation.
I hope this helpful